Lula Vida Most Wanted March 2017 Rose Gold

1. The Betty Collection: Nope Middle Finger Necklace. 2. Sugar Lip Tinted Treatment SPF 15 in Poppy. 3.Oliver Peoples Josa Cat-eye Acetate and Rose Gold-tone Sunglasses. 4. Alexander McQueen Scarpa Pelle S.Cuoio Heel in Boudoir. 5. Rag & Bone Panama Star Hat in Taupe.

Just when you thought you’d had enough of rose gold… that if you saw rose gold whatever one more time on your Instagram feed that you’d lose it! That is literally how I felt five minutes before I put this together, but sometimes I go into these spreads without a plan, and this happened organically. Maybe I reverse pyschologied myself into actually wanting more rose gold in my life! The insanity of it all! Ooophhh…

Okay fashionistas, we are going with a “f*ck the patriarchy and lock their tiny skulls away in badass heels while looking like a girly teenage witch” theme (add gray hair, cat eyeliner, and heavy tattoos here). Or maybe “pre-beach feminist networking event in Miami (this is a thing) while drinking a spicy gin cocktail with rosemary and pineapple” theme (super cute card case and neck scarf mandatory). Take your pick! Or make one up in the comments…

(P.S. Can’t get over these shoes! AMAZING!)

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    How to Make A Difference During The Presidential Circus

    “What is this bullshit?” is the phrase playing through so many of our minds right now. Tada! We’re edging closer to the top of the political soap opera roller coaster, right before the media blitz ball drop that is the presidential election on Tuesday, November 8, 2016. It’s… almost… over…

    We’ve spent a year or more cozying up to our preferred candidates, only to have them drop by the wayside, self-implode, or rise to the top of their flippy floppy crop. “Politics,” we sneer, mercurial in our disdain for these public speakers promising to represent us. We love to hate, hate to love, love to love them. A jaded-yet-optimisticly-hungry-for-change America we are.

    But what can we do? The majority of the time, the American political machine feels like a giant lopped-off Medusa head, a thousand angry snakes snapping at each other, forgetting they are all connected at the root, eventually turning everyone it encounters into immobile, dejected blocks of stone.

    Listen, we have options. We can choose to tuck our tails and run away to Canada, or accept that we are part of this madness and plant our feet in the garden of change we are tending. It will eventually grow. Here are seven ways to make a difference before/during/after the presidential circus. Give them a shot…

    1. Ignore It –

    This is the route many people choose to take when the political bullshit sound machine becomes too unbearably noisy. It takes a lot of energy to digest the same soundbites over and over again, to hear people berate one another with vague accusations. Sometimes it is easier and healthier to just mentally turn the damn thing off. [The problem with this option though, is that if you aren’t engaging people and dialoging to make change in our system, then who is? We become complicit when we remain silent.]

    2. Discuss the Issues –

    On the flip side of ignoring the damn mess, you can confront it. This goes against the “never talk about religion, politics, or money rule” we all heard growing up. No one wants to fracture relationships with friends, family, coworkers, or randos on the street, but there are ways to genuinely and respectfully discuss issues while agreeing to disagree. The likelihood of changing someones mind now (or later) may be slim, but if you provide words or images to help educate them, and leave it there for them to consume on their own time, they may eventually decide to have a change of heart.

    3. VOTE! –

    Why voting isn’t more accessible or mandatory in the United States (like it is in 22 other countries) makes no sense. Well, actually it does. If all members of our society equally participated in our democracy, the outcomes would upset a lot of those traditionally in positions of power. Imagine an informed population with a 95% voter turnout rate. Imagine the immediate and far-reaching changes that would cause in our domestic policy! Well, that’s never going to happen, but VOTE. It does make a difference, even if the electoral college is an outdated piece of shit by several hundred years.

    4. Volunteer to Register Voters/Help at Polling Stations –

    A step up from voting is helping register people to vote and volunteering at polling places during election day/helping transport people to polling stations. These opportunities can be flexible (ex: canvasing the neighborhood for a day or two of your choosing) and limited in scope (ex: the presidential election is a one day event). These are nice ways to get involved that you can tuck into your schedule. Registering voters also has the potential to make a big difference in election outcomes. The more citizens that can speak, the louder and more representative the voice of The People.

    5. Get Involved in Community Organizations –

    Community organizations are ground zero for making a difference wherever you live. The people running these organizations have generally done the legwork of identifying problems and researching available solutions, and are usually set up with a skilled staff member or several under a nonprofit designation. Most towns and cities have nonprofits that exist to meet specific needs of the community. In oceanside towns, there are often volunteer beach cleaning organizations, in cities there are organizations dedicated to building and maintaining urban gardens. Food pantries and women’s shelters can be found everywhere. They all need your help… (and dollars…)

    6. Become an Activist –

    Merriam-Webster defines “activism” as “a doctrine or practice that emphasizes direct vigorous action especially in support of or opposition to one side of a controversial issue.” Being an activist means consciously taking your voice and doing something – becoming an agent of change for a problem you are passionate about. There are literally a bajillion issues that need voices to represent them. Choose one! Educate yourself on it. Find other people with similar feelings and exchange thoughts and ideas. Speak up. Act out! You can become an activist today. No previous experience required.

    7. Run for Office –

    Who can make a difference? You can! You know the issues. You want to make change. You have dreams of helping the world become a better place. The penultimate way your can reform the system is by becoming a part of it (see: The Matrix). You don’t have to play sketchy politics or grub around for corporate money, at least not in local elections. Use your voting record, your experience being involved in community organizations, and your history as an activist as your resume and get your name on a ballot. Folks want to elect optimistic people to office that genuinely care about the issues and want to make a difference in the world. Now is your chance…

    Instead of getting angry at politics and tuning out, dive in and make a difference!

    • October 25, 2016 - 12:03 pm

      Abigail - I was living in LA up until about four months ago and I couldnt believe how angry and violent this election is. it’s dividing friends, family and complete strangers. I think it’s such a shame that this is where US politics is at. Hopefully we’ll all learn a good lesson from this election.Unfortunately there’s little any Non-American can do but watch and wait for this mess to be over!

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    Lula Vida - Coffee & Crushing It: Aim for 100 RejectionsRejection. That word! The horror! Fear of rejection is one of the biggest dream killers out there, especially for creative types. Want to pitch an article? Start a podcast and put it up on a streaming site? Film a short and submit it to a festival? Paint some portraits and submit them to galleries? Sometimes as soon as we start a new project, fear of rejection stops us dead in our tracks before we even begin!

    Over at the Bullish Society, Jen Dziura shared the article “Why You Should Aim for 100 Rejections a Year” by Kim Liao. It is brilliant. Liao’s article is all about flipping rejection on its head by embracing it, essentially by playing a numbers game.

    In the book Art & Fear, authors David Bales and Ted Orland describe a ceramics class in which half of the students were asked to focus only on producing a high quantity of work while the other half was tasked with producing work of high quality. For a grade at the end of the term, the “quantity” group’s pottery would be weighed, and fifty pounds of pots would automatically get an A, whereas the “quality” group only needed to turn in one—albeit perfect—piece. Surprisingly, the works of highest quality came from the group being graded on quantity, because they had continually practiced, churned out tons of work, and learned from their mistakes. The other half of the class spent most of the semester paralyzed by theorizing about perfection, which sounded disconcertingly familiar to me—like all my cases of writer’s block.

    Produce a lot of work. Submit that work. The more you submit, the more you get rejected, and the more polished your work starts to become because your are learning from your mistakes. With every submission, your chance of acceptance improves, and so does your craft! Quantity begets quality. Embrace the fear of rejection and just keep submitting!

    Actors are a prime example of rejection-embracers. They show up to audition against x number of competitors, and they are either right for the part, or they get literally get rejected, and they just keep plugging away anyway until they get cast.

    Salespeople and fundraisers are also very familiar with embracing rejection. Part of their job is cold calling potential clients and partners to find leads and negotiating with people to close deals. Maybe one in five people will pick up the phone for the cold call. Maybe one in twenty will make the buy or donate the funds. Salespeople know the more chances they take, the more likely they will get a hit back! Liao writes:

    Since I’ve started aiming for rejections, not acceptances, I no longer dread submitting. I don’t flinch (much) when I receive inevitable form rejection emails. Instead of tucking my story or essay apologetically into a bottle and desperately casting it out to sea, I launch determined air raids of submission grenades, five or ten at a time. I wait for the rejections, line up my next tier of journals, and submit again.

    * * * *

    Last year, I got rejected 43 times, but I also got five acceptances—one to a residency, one to a reading series, and three publications in literary journals. Additionally, to my delight, I received six encouraging rejections from really great journals, inviting me to send them something else.

    Liao encourages writers to aim for one hundred rejections a year. Really, this thinking can be applied to any creative endeavor or long-term goal. Are you in? I am! How will you be collecting your rejections? What will you be pitching and submitting?





      Getting dressed for Marfa, Texas is its own animal. Leave the Santa Fe ruffles and chunky silver cuffs at home. Your fancy Lucchese cowboy boots are fine, but you have to add some rough and tumble touches – this ain’t Dallas! Marfa style tends to lean toward Austin (75% of your fellow tourists will hail from the Live Music Capital of the World), which means vintage tees and jeans are just right… but we are in West Texas here, true cowboy country, so city slickers I advise you to keep it on the level!

      Wondering how to dress for your weekend trip to Marfa? Here are five steps for Marfa, Texas style:

      1. Denim! Jeans, jackets, buttown-down shirts… double or triple layer your denim. The more rugged, the better. Add some pearl snaps if you feel like taking it up a notch. Remember, Marfa is part of the Chihuahuan Desert plateau, so although it may be hot and dusty during the day, it can get chilly at night. And if you visit during the winter, it will be frigid! Denim will be your friend.
      2. Same goes for boots! Take a drive through West Texas and you’ll see nothing but vast stretches of dirt and desert brush for hundreds of miles. Sure those lace-up hippy sandals from Free People are cute, but they will be impractical here (and your feet will feel disgusting!) if you are camping out at El Cosmico or walking from Hotel Paisano through town to the browse the outdoor sculptures at the Chinati Foundation.
      3. Hats. Visiting Marfa will make you wonder why you don’t wear hats every damn day! The are practical for keeping the sun out of your eyes and your hair from blowing free in the desert wind. Hats also elevate any and all outfits. Literally. I can not think of any easier/more direct style advice; hats, turbans, wraps: please and thank you!!!  The variety of hats you will see people wearing here vary from thrifted fedoras to handcrafted bowlers. You can also go traditional with a bespoke cowboy hat.
      4. Vintage. Nothing is cooler and more rock and roll than a badass vintage t-shirt or jacket paired with good denim and killer boots. Austin, we are looking at you for vintage shopping! Doesn’t even have to be vintage. Just get a screen-printed jersey crew-neck T and layer one of your denim pieces on top and you might as well be a guitar god from the 70’s. Now grab a beer or a mezcal mixed drink and hot damn, you’re good to go!
      5. Leather accessories. We’ve covered boots. Now add in a hand tooled leather belt or fringed crossbody purse or wallet. Monogram those babies. This is where your West Texas cowboy chic can shine! Come during the Trans-Pecos Music Festival and you can score all sorts of handcrafted pieces from around the state. Mexico also produces amazing leather goods… and is only sixty miles away! Ah, Mexico…

      The idea is to keep your Marfa style functional and low-key, but super cool and West Texas relevant. After all, nowhere is hipper than Marfa, Texas (although it may seem counterintuitive)!

      Hope these style tips inspired your journey (or daily life)! Have fun in the true Southwest y’all!